It all starts with a kiss and if you are not good at kissing you won't get far enough to get her panties off of her and use your new found oral skills. So I want to share with you first some techniques for driving her wild with a kiss. Many women complain that after they have had sex with a man for a while or are in a relationship with a man that he does not kiss them often enough or long enough. So if you are guilty of this STOP IT NOW! And go kiss your lover like you did in the beginning. Pretend that this is your first kiss for the very first time and try to feel those same feelings all over again. Then kiss her and slowly and passionately make out with her like you used to in when you were first dating.
I can't tell you how many times I have heard a woman say that she can tell the first time a man kisses her if she is going to sleep with him or that if he knows how to kiss he will be good in bed! WOW what a pressure! Your first kiss could be your last! Many women actually decide with your first kiss if they will go any further. So it stands to reason that you better polish up your kissing skills and techniques. So I am going to share with you some of the do's and don't of kissing, kind of a Kissing Technique 101!
First off, you absolutely must have clean teeth and fresh clean smelling breath. Brush your teeth every morning and evening and after ever meal if possible. Drink allot of water rather than soft drinks (for general health and for healthy teeth). Coffee can stain your teeth and leave bad breath. Also if you are on a date and you go to dinner, after you eat go to the restroom and clean your teeth and make sure you don't have any food stuck in your teeth. The natural enzymes in your mouth can cause the food to putrefy in your mouth and cause bad breath. This is especially true with meat! Keep some mints handy for the both of you. Mints are better than gum because they will dissolve where gum will stay around and may get in the way of your first kiss! Now that you have clean teeth and breath, let's talk about kissing technique.
Do you want to kiss someone with dry, cracked and or raw lips? Well neither does she! So keep your lips in good shape. Keep some chapstick, carmex or other lip conditioner with you at all times and keep your lips soft and smooth. Don't pick or pull off skin on your lips, it will only make it worse!
Let's assume that this is a first kiss and if it is not a first kiss, pretend that it is a first kiss as I mentioned above and it will help bring some new excitement to a existing relationship, try it and see!
So first off go slow and don't rush things. When the time is right, slowly go in for the kiss and be very gentle, with only slightly parted lips. Most women complain that either the guys are too tight lipped or to wide lipped and slobber all over them. So you need to have just slightly parted lips. Then gently press or cushion your lips on hers. When you put your lips on hers they will fit better if you straddle either her top or bottom lip between your lips. Kiss her long and slow, and then if she responds follow her lead and kiss her again. Each time savor the experience and vary where your lips land from her top lip to her bottom lip or on both lips...
As you continue you can part your lips more and gently start to bring just the tip of your tongue into play. Now if she has stared sticking her tongue into your mouth, then that is a strong signal for you to do the same, but still go slowly and don't stick it in all the way, go slow in a teasing manner.... Once you get to this point of passionate French Kissing, there are endless variations and techniques you can use. I will give you a few below.
When you are kissing passionately with your tongues involved you can:
Run your tongue around hers and intertwine your tongue with hers.
Play the follow me game: Touch her tongue, then quickly bring your tongue back into your mouth and see if she follows you?
Suck on her tongue! or Suck on her lower lip! GENTLY PLEASE!!!
Flick the tip of her tongue with your with your tongue the same way that you would her clitoris if you were performing oral sex on her. This technique will give her the message that you would be good at oral sex!
Lick the edges of the inside of her lips with the tip of your tongue.
Those should get you going and for your homework, come up with variations of you own.
As you are kissing her mouth you also want to kiss her on other places on her face too. Kiss her, cheek bones, her chin, all over her lips kissing and sucking as you go (don't suck on her face, only her lips, as most women don’t like the skin on there face sucked on). Also you will notice that I did not include her forehead as this is normally a place where our parents and grandparents kiss us and is normally associated with non-sexual love and at this point you don’t want to remind her of non-sexual feelings.
Next move over to the area where her jaw line neck and ear meet. This is a very sensitive area. Very gently kiss, lick and suck on this area very tenderly and slowly. If you say anything to her keep your voice very soft as you are very close to her ear and almost anything you would say in a normal voice would be loud and hurt her ear and possibly kill the mood.
When you get just at the edge of the nipple use one of the techniques below. You can use them in the order listed below or in any order you choose, but "The Warm Breath" should be done first:
The Warm Breath: Before you actually touch the nipple, use your warmest breath on her nipple, but don’t actually touch her.
The Swirling Tongue: Swirl you’re the tip of your tongue around the very edge of the areola of the nipple each time getting closer and closer to the tip of the nipple. Start slow and go faster if you desire. You can do this as long as she is enjoying it. But don’t it so long that she gets bored with the sensation. Switch techniques after a minute or two.
The Tongue Flick: Flick the tip of her now erect nipple back and forth with the tip of your tongue. Start slow and go faster if you desire. You can do this as long as she is enjoying it. But don’t do it so long that she gets bored with the sensation. Switch and alternate techniques.
The Suck: Slowly take the nipple into your mouth and gently suck it and knead it with your tongue, lips and mouth. Press the nipple between your tongue and the roof of your mouth.
The Suck & Flick: Do the suck as outlined above, then when the nipple is in your mouth flick it back and forth and up and down with your tongue. Start slowly and go faster if you desire. You can do this as long as she is enjoying it. But don’t it so long that she gets bored with the sensation. Switch techniques after a minute or two.
The Nibble: Nibble very, very gently on her nipple with your teeth. If you have any jagged edges on your teeth you should skip this one. You only want to knead the nipple with your teeth very gently. This should only be done for 30 seconds at most. (A good way to practice this one is to put a grape on your mouth and play with it with your teeth and nibble it with out breaking the skin of the grape)
The Big Suck: This time when you suck the nipple into your mouth suck as much of the surrounding breast in to your mouth as well and gently suck and knead it with your tongue. Push the nipple and breast to the top of your mouth with your tongue like before.
The Cool Breath: Now that her nipple is wet, if you blow on it with cool stream of air from your mouth it will provide a cool sensation on her nipple do this for 15-30 seconds. After you do this immediately follow up with "The Suck & Flick", your warm mouth will very good to her right after the sensation of the cool breath.
Use the above techniques first on one breast and then the other, one at a time at first and then back and forth. You can even push her nipples together and lick them both at the same time (if her breasts are big enough). Do all of this for at least 20-30 minutes! She will love you for it. Most men just spend a couple of minutes on a woman’s breasts, kind of like they are passing through on the way down and if you are having a quickie that is ok. But now you are going to show her that you are a man who not only appreciates her breasts but also a man who sees her breasts as a destination rather than somewhere you stop on the way down. You are going to show her you are a man who completely enjoys to and knows how to make love to a woman and fulfill her sexual desires.
Now that you have been passionately kissing her, you may be heading toward passionate lovemaking!